I had money saved and on paper was able to afford to be at home. But it didn't work, so I get where you are coming from.. I also wasn't soley BF so I was able to leave my DD..
I don't think anyone is going to tell you that you should have considered this before hand. It happens with the best laid plans..
What type of hrs does your DH do (I am sure I have read it before, but can't remember).. My DH is a shiftworker and just did not get how hard it is to find work around his hrs, especially when they change all the time..
I know you are in a small town, what services are in the town?
he works 530am to whenever he knocks off... the earliest is 2pm as that is his 8 hours, but rarely finishes before 3pm.
it is the worst to fit with nursing shifts...morning = 7am - 330p. evening is 130p-10p, and nights are 930p-730a.
our town doesnt have much. no childcare at all. there is a supermarket, a chemist, a butcher, an op shop, a hair dresser, a medical centre (might be an option but i dont know what/if the nurses job is there) and a nursing home.
Is there any jobs around your town where you go into people's homes for an hour or two to help care for them (kinda like nursing homes but in their own home)? If so, you might be able to take Spock with you.....if they are living on their own they may love to have someone come help them AND a baby to visit!
I couldn't think of anything different to what has already been suggested above, and I think they are all really great ideas.
No one should say that you didn't plan or anything like that. Even the best laid plans can and often do come undone. We have been in the same broke boat many times too.
TT could you see if there are any casual shifts at the nursing home, some do half shifts ie you are there for the drug round in the morning/evening and thats about it. Is there someone who could watch spock who could bring her to you when she needs a feed? Im a nurse and when I worked in paeds one of the girls would get her bubs carer to bring him in when he needed a feed and she would take a break to feed bubs then. A NH is a bit different to a hospital in that there are carers to see to most of the clients immediate needs so taking a short break to bf a baby may be possible? Does your dp work weekends? Could you look at weekend work and get your dp to bring baby to you, depending on your employer you might be able to make it work that you take your breaks when needed to feed bubs or take extra unpaid time for feeds
Have you considered doing a round delivering junk mail?
Could you do night fill and see if the same set up could work with dp bringing baby to you? Keep trying with the bottle and EBM all of mine refused a bottle to start with, my youngest two were much more stubborn than my eldest. I found trying different teats, using a sippy cup, sitting bubs in a bouncer while offering the bottle and getting someone else to offer the EBM were stratagies that worked
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